Wednesday, March 9, 2011
Proverbs 22:6 says, "Train up a child in the way he should go and he will not depart from it."
Our job as parents is to have the hard conversations. We can't let the world teach them. We have to teach them. We have to be the ones who take on the awkward tasks. "When you bought the mini van, you became awkward anyway." It starts in the home! We have to model this, though. Kids can sniff out hypocracy a mile away. We are the gatekeepers.
However, even as we teach our kids God's Word, we have to give our children a chance to walk out their faith. Otherwise, overprotected kids will fall away and fail. We would rather our kids fail at home than away, right?
Another question that came in is; What happens when our kids are around parents with different values? This is another hard conversation. It is one where parents ask other parents to be honored on certain points. If this is blown off, we then train our kids why our position is the way it is and where in the Bible it says that this is why God says this.
3. Don't be afraid to discipline. "How many of you have been around undisciplined children?" Your kids will be thankful later on! Proverbs 19:18 says, "Discipline your children while there is still hope; otherwise you will ruin their lives." With vision, don't be afraid to make tough decisions. Proverbs 13:24 says, "He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves his son disciplines him promptly." If our children know we love them, then they will be able to understand that we have to discipline. Also, when disciplining, the parents have to be on the same page, otherwise the kid sees divisiveness. What's more, treat all children, even adopted children, equally.
What do I do if my child is in unrepentent sin? It is a hard question to answer, but a) have the hard conversation, b) bring in some scripture, c) wrap your appeal in love and d) do not underestimate the power of prayer.
5 Encourage them to honor and respect authority. The Fifth commandment is to Honor your Father and Mother. If we can teach our kids to do that at home, they will learn to honor others. There has to be a culture of honor. DO NOT PUT DOWN YOUR SPOUSE in front of the kids.
6. Teach your kids to forgive others. Matthew 18, the scripture says that, if we have an offense against someone, we have to confront them. We have to model for our kids how to forgive.
7. Challenge them to stand for what is right, not for what is popular. We have a whole generation of kids who are spineless and who do not stand. We have to teach them that the priority is what is right in God's eyes. Teach your kids that you and God will always love them no matter what. But they have to know that most people do not stand for what is right. Let them know that you will back them up here!
8. Disciple them to embrace a strong work effort. Teach and encourage your children to do good jobs. You are raising future adults. It is never too late. Teach them responsibility and how to earn money. Teach them how to do laundry and how to
9. Direct them to fulfull their God-ordained purpose. Help them to live every day for their purpose. Teach them that God cares what they do with their time. We have to come alongside them and help them to step into their future. The role of the mother is affirmation. But the role of the father is confirmation. Confirmation is laying out purpose and vision. Confirmation also speaks out value, "You didn't just do good (affirmation), you ARE good (confirmation)."